Motherhood is an experience like nothing else. Every moment is filled with lessons to be taught and to be learned. Every moment is worthy of awe and inspiration. Every moment is furiously fast and fleeting. Every. Moment. Is. Chaos. I know that all three of my children have taught me things about this world, myself, God, love, heartache, forgiveness, I could go on and on. Most things were hard fought to learn. But, for me, I know that there is no greater love, no job that is tougher, no task that is more rewarding than motherhood. In all of the chaos, I am grateful for them. They have expanded my heart beyond any measure.
When I was photographing Dustin and Heather’s first daughter Ellery, Heather let me know that they were expecting their second child. How exciting it is to be given such a gift! I am always filled with so much happiness to hear of a mother expecting a new baby. It’s like I feel my first pregnancy experience all over again. I feel what it was like for us to see the positive pregnancy test, feel the first kicks, watch my belly grow (and grow and grow) and I feel that for everyone else who is starting out on their journey. Whether it is the first, second, or even fifth, there is a miracle to be celebrated.
Heather and Dustin are such an incredible couple! These two are so in sync, you can tell they have that “married couple language.” You know that one where all they have to do is make eye contact, raise an eye brow, crack a smile, and they know. It’s pretty special. I know that motherhood is something that Heather has in the bag! She has an insight that is on-point! She knows what to take seriously, what to laugh at, and that this life takes a little bit of both at just the right times.
I asked Heather a few questions about her newest little girl, these are her answers…
Tell me your birth story.
Brenna’s birth was much calmer than her sister’s. My blood pressure had been high so we decided induction was best. My Pitocen started at 7:30am and my husband jokingly told the nurse she had until noon to get her out! I dilated so quickly (from a 7 to a 10 in 20 minutes) and four pushes later, Brenna Leigh Caram made her grand entrance at 12:37pm.
How did you choose her name?
My best friend’s wedding photographer is named Brenna and I fell in love with it. I think it’s beautiful and I’ve never had a student named Brenna, so I was safe there.
Do you have other children?
Yes! Ellery Cate. She’s two, beautiful, and so full of life! 🙂
What has been the most surprising thing you have learned from becoming a mother?
How profoundly deep my love for my girls is. I would do anything for them. I’ve also become fiercely protective, which can sometimes surprise me.
What do you see when you look at your baby?
So many things. Hope, renewal, and promise. The promise that I made to their father, to love him forever. And the promise that I will always love Brenna, wherever her path leads her.
What do you want your baby to know about you?
That I am an imperfect person but I will always be there for her when she needs me. She and her sister are my reason for waking up in the morning and why I strive to be a better person each day.
What do you want Brenna to know about herself?
So much! But the most important is that she has a purpose. She will do amazing things and I can’t wait to watch her grow. I also want her to know that I will always love the person she is. And that she is so loved by more people than she knows.
One word that describes your emotions…
Right now? A roller coaster
Anything else you would like to share? Cravings during pregnancy, advice for friends having a baby, things you would say to your own mother, your favorite baby item that makes your day easier, etc. Feel free to add a story, words of encouragement, or what you wish you had known before pregnancy/motherhood!
- Ask for help if you need it!!!
- Mommy guilt is REAL! But we’re all just doing the best we can.
- People (even your well intentioned family) will tell you you’re not doing things the right way. Unless it’s about car seat safety, you don’t have to listen.
- Bottle warmers and wipe warmers have really made some of my friends’ lives difficult. You won’t always have those at your disposal and then you’ll have one cranky baby.
- Parenting should be a team effort. It’s more fun!
- And finally, mommas, you’re going to feel overwhelmed. Make sure you get out of the house, even if it’s just for a Target run. We need quiet time. It will help your sanity!
- And of course, wine! 🙂