When do you ever get comfortable making the decision to be a stay at home mom? Will it ever come to lose the guilt of not working outside of the home? I have had a job since I was 16 years old, I’ve been very successful in my previous working life. I had a job that I loved and I was well respected and made a great salary. But I had to leave my job when I was 4 months pregnant and put on complete bed rest. Having previously lost a child at 5 1/2 months gestation we knew that it was a very real probability that I could lose the twins too. It was a scary time for us for sure. Not only did we live day to day wondering if I was going to go into premature labor but we had the added stress of a now slimmed income. Liam Nicholas and Lennon Grace were born at 7 months gestation, very early. That in itself was a harrowing battle that I will go into more detail later but they lived in the NICU for two months.
The nurses and doctors recommended very strongly that we not put the kids in a daycare setting for the first two years due to their compromised immune systems. So it wasn’t even a discussion except to say that we both knew what we wanted to do. I would stay home with them for at least the first two years, hopefully three if we could afford it. Shannon took a promotion at work to bring in more money but meant that she would be away from home more and more. So now I have the struggles of are we doing the right thing for our family? Should I be working? Should the kids be in daycare? Should Shannon be home more? I know that some of my questions come from pressures, that I’m sure are made up, from friends or family. I am the first to joke about not having a job so that I can beat anyone else to the punch. I feel like other people think I should be able to do it all. Probably a big reason that Sugar Rush Designs was created. To give myself reassurance that I am more than a “just a stay at home mommy.”
I feel fulfilled as a stay at home mom, I feel like I give my children 100% of the attention and interaction that they deserve. I know that they benefit from me staying home with them in many ways. They are 16 months old and have only recently had a mild stomach bug. No other illness that may have sent them back to the hospital. That’s a big relief for all of us and an assurance that we made the right decisions for that reason any way.
Have you ever wondered what a 2 pound 7 ounce baby looks like? 🙂 This was the day they were born, the tiniest things I have ever seen! Today these little miracles are happy and healthy and I hope that I can find peace in knowing that our decisions have helped them become who they are meant to be!